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  Unity-the 2nd time around

  by JAVA in

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  someone looked at my web page and sent the following:.

  "it seems that whenever ex jw's read about other ex jw's stories and points of view, we feel like, at some point, we've read each other's minds!

  everything makes sense!".

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  thinkers wife

  Java,
  I said this very thing on another thread to Happy to be Free. It is so true. It seems almost every time someone posts their story, with the exception of the personal circumstances, I could have posted those very feelings.
  I very much agree with all the comments here. And like RHW, this group here (and probably pretty much any group we would become involved with of the ex JW mind) is real.
  IMHO, the incident with Patricia made it very clear how loving and supportive this group is. Unconditionally. I have been impressed by the loving and truly compassionate attitude shown here.
  I just can't say enough about how much it has meant to me and no doubt all the others here.
  TW
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  Almost there......

  by eyes_opened in

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  hi everyone, this is my first post here.

  first of all, let me explain a bit of my background.

  i was raised as a jw from the age of 4 years old.

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  Welcome Eyes-Opened,
  It never ceases to amaze me the common thread we all have. I could have typed your letter word for word with the exception of the personal parts. And so could have just about everyone else on this board. It is astounding.
  Looking forward to hearing more from you! Soon.
  TW
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  favorite bands anyone?

  by peaceloveharmony in

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  hey-i'm just starting this somewhat cheesy thread on favorite bands.

  here is my list:.

  phish.

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  thinkers wife

  How about Mozart. How old does that make me? Come on Waiting bring it on, I can handle it.
  TW
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  better or worse??

  by peaceloveharmony in

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  hi-i have a question for everyone.

  i was just wondering if your life has improved since you've left the org?

  for me i left when i was 17, went to college, met a great guy who i live with now and have a ton of great friends.

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  Harmony,
  I'm still in the beginning stages. But I can definitely say that over-all my life has drastically improved. I am with a wonderful man. We love each other dearly and support each other no matter what.
  As for my family, not so good. But maybe some day! Never give up hope.
  TW
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  DB Party

  by Cinamengirl in

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  for those of you on this board who may know me i use to post under eleanor on witnet and wol.

  i have decided to have another db gettogether in april 14th or 21st i will keep you updated hope to see you in april

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  thinkers wife

  Wendy,
  It's gotta' be a discussion board party. Too Cool!!!!!!! I would love to come too with the above provisions. I know my husband would join in too. Where is it going to be Cinemangirl? I am so exited!
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  New To this Forum

  by RJB in

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  this is my first time on this board.

  i have been a jw for over 40 years but currently am very discouraged and not very active.

  i served at bethel for 4 years, 1963-67, spent most of my time at the kindom farms, s.lansing, ny.

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  TR,
  I think we all have regrets like that. I guess we just have to put that behind us and move on. Tough, but necessary.
  I had a friend who got df'ed. He got Aids (yes he was gay). One of my biggest regrets was not seeing him before he died.
  I wrote a very loving and lengthy letter to his parents (mom a JW). Never heard back. Too little too late, I guess.
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  Is it Biblical to Shun??

  by charlie in

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  i'm not a witness, but i know one very well and we have had many discussions on various topics.

  we would both like to know, however, if it is biblical to shun the disfellowshipped/disassociated?

  where in the bible does the society base the practice of shunning or groveling back for a long period of time if a person is sorry and wants to return to the church?

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  Happy to be Free,
  How totally ridiculous. This is what comes of making rules to be changed at any moment. I know some one's that this very thing happened to. You can't remove damage that has already been done.
  And the emotional results to the individual are massive and non-refundable (meaning they can't be fixed, for lack of a better way to put it). Big hugs to you. Keep posting and healing.
  TW
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  Are you Ex's still Christian?

  by joel in

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  whassup guys.

  i've spent most of my web time over the last 2 years at another site full of ex-jdubs...i'd say about 50 people post there on occasion...many of that number regularly.. what struck me from the beginning, as i got to know the people posting there was...how many were now atheists...non-believers in god...the bible...pretty much anything they once held sacred as jw's!.

  i dare say...90 some % do not consider themselves christian now!.

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  Amicus,
  You're a sweetheart too! I have sense in your post a personality that is best described "still waters run deep".
  Our opinion of the Bible differs but we do agree on the parts about love. And whatever works for you, keep doing it.
  I think we all need to choose our own path. Whatever makes us content and happy, as long as it doesn't harm others, go for it!!!
  TW
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  Are you Ex's still Christian?

  by joel in

  1. jw
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  whassup guys.

  i've spent most of my web time over the last 2 years at another site full of ex-jdubs...i'd say about 50 people post there on occasion...many of that number regularly.. what struck me from the beginning, as i got to know the people posting there was...how many were now atheists...non-believers in god...the bible...pretty much anything they once held sacred as jw's!.

  i dare say...90 some % do not consider themselves christian now!.

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  Grunt,
  You really are a sweetheart. Thanks for sharing your feelings. I would imagine it wasn't easy to say all that. And what you said makes a whole lot of sense.
  I too, feel the Bible is a message about love. And I for one know for a fact that the JW's as a whole don't have it. Ironic that one of their key texts is John 13:35. They are so quick to quote it and point a accusing finger at other religions. How sad. Can't see the forest for the trees.
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  What is the big Deal !!!

  by GeneBean in

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  hello my name is gene, i have been disfellowshiped for two weeks.why is it so wrong for brothers and sisters not to talk to me?

  ?im not apostate,ive never disrupted the congergation.my brothers an elder and i dont want to tell him or my family.. whats the big big deal???????????

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  thinkers wife

  I agree with all the posts here with the exception of one statement.
  

  The only thing that could be worse for you would be to be da'd. Then you would be considered as belonging to the Evil Slave Class. No discipline (shunning) would be enough to turn you around in the opinion of jw's. Pretty much cursed, damned and lost from God in their secure knowledge of the right and wrong of the universe.

  
  I do have to give the elder's some credit Waiting. They did call me about a month and a half after I da'd myself and wanted to talk to me. I refused. But in light of Java's post, this could just be different personalities, in different congregations.
  TW